DON'T BE TOO NICE

In reality, life has many stages and we all tend to meet different kinds of people. One of the most important person at one stage of my life once told that there is no point of being too nice. What do you think? What do you mean by nice? Imagine you are surrounded with cunning and fake people and suddenly one honest guy pops out, so is he nice? Or you are surrounded by lovely and good people, and then one bad guy pops out, is he not nice? It's funny sometimes, the more you avoid someone, the more the other person wants to become close.

This world taught us how to lie, how to earn respect, how to destroy someone's life, how to cheat, how to earn money, how to be good to others, how to show a fake smile and so much more. Everything is taught to us. As kids, they just know how to cry and smile. Thus everyone has a different perspective about what is good and what is bad according to their life experiences. We cannot travel their life path, but at least we can imagine them in a situation like this and understand.

Do you think you are overly nice? You think you are helping people more than they deserve? You think you are getting affected because of your sweet behavior? Don't worry, it's just your character. You met the wrong people in your life and that is why these questions come to our mind. No one is good or bad, situation makes us do things, and therefore it might hurt others as well.

Don't try to make everyone happy, it is impossible. We often hurt our closed ones to make a stranger smile. This generation loves temporary people and things more than permanent ones.

Once I witnessed a person who was fighting and bargaining for things. He was purchasing clothes for small kids. It was very noticeable because the way he was talking and bargaining, it was too loud and annoying. Everyone felt uncomfortable. Shopkeepers were feeling very irritated with that guy. It was a street filled with small shops and this person went to each store and destroyed everyone's peace. I thought a big fight was going to happen. In one shop, I stepped in and told him, "Bhai aaraamse deal karo, we all are humans here, you don't have to shout". And he gave me a really nice response saying, "Stay away, it's none of your business". OUCH. It truly hurt when he sounded out like that in front of a crowd, but true, none of my business. Then I got carried away with my stuff. Later on, after 1 hour, I saw this same person opposite to this street. Guess what? He purchased these clothes for the small girls who were living on the streets. They wore torn dresses and this person got new clothes for 6-7 kids who were present there. I could watch every kid surrounding him, extremely happy. Their smile on each of their faces. WOW! I don't think he expected anything while doing this. He didn't do all this to show everyone, unlike some people. He simply did because he felt bad when he saw them.

 

Now you guys tell me. Is he good or bad? Is he a nice guy? He was rude to all the shopkeepers and surroundings. No one is even going to remember him. Only the clothes he gifted to those kids is going to persist for a really long time. Everyone has a different definition of "Nice". You don't have to get the 'nice' tag from others. We all should not care what others say instead do good to others and make someone smile.

Be nice not to show others. Be nice within yourself. Learn, help and grow with everyone you meet, not only with few selected people.